There are lots and lots of toys you can use during BDSM play. Here are a few to help you get acquainted.
- Floggers. Thin rubber or thin, stiff leather ones will sting if used with any
force. Softer leather or suede ones will ‘thud’ more and are really
useful to ‘warm up’ the skin. Most reputable sellers will indicate on
their websites what type you are buying, and are nearly always willing
to advise you if you are not sure which ones to go for. If you can make
it to a BDSM fair, sellers will allow you to try them on your own skin
to ensure you get what you want.
- Pinweels. Often known as the Wartenberg pinwheel, there are now a few variations around, including a plastic disposable one and a seven wheel one. These look vicious, but can be used very gently over the skin, even nipples, as long as the user does not apply too much pressure. In any event, they are a pretty safe toy that can provide a lot of fun teasing and waking up the subs’ skin.
- Crops. These are very easily obtained from any riding shop, but check out the crop before you buy. They do vary in stiffness and width, and this will affect the sensation on the skin. The stiffer they are, and the smaller the tress or ‘tongue’ at the end, the more they are likely to sting!
- Nipple clamps. These vary from the howlingly
painful to fairly
stimulating. Some are made like clothes pegs, with a spring to close
them. Others screw up so are more adjustable. I would go for these if
you’re unsure how much stimulation your sub’s nipples can take. The idea
is to leave them on for a while but beware! The longer your sub has them on, the more
noise they are likely to make when you remove them, as this allows a
blood rush back into the nipples and this obviously can be quite
painful.
- Paddles. These are flat, paddle like spanking toys
that can sting quite a lot. Again, they will vary in intensity depending
on what they are made of and how wide the paddle is. Softer suede will
be less intense than a wide, stiff leather one.
- Restraints. From ankle and wrist straps to collars
and rope, being retrained is part of many a BDSM play scene. Nice,
broad, well fitting straps are best for comfort and long scenes. They
will minimise the need to adjust during play, which can be a
distraction! Rope should be used only if you know how to tie them
correctly and you are aware of the Safety issues involved. Rope knots
should never press on tendons or ligaments, and your sub should not end
up with a huge knot pressing into their back when led down. See the
earlier post we did showing the correct way to tie the wrist. We will be
doing more bondage tutorials, so call back again for them. Collars
should fit well. Your sub should never be left alone if the collar is
tethered to anything. They are fun to attach a lead to when moving your
sub around.
- Gags. Another sense you can remove from your sub is their ability to speak. Ball gags stuff the mouth, but depending on the size, they can be difficult for people with jaw and mouth issues (although there are some great beginner ball gags out there). Some find bar gags or small, soft open mouth o-ring gags a better option in this case. Of course, you can always use a scarf tied around the head and between the lips like a bar gag. In lieu of a ball gag, stuff your partner's mouth with your panties instead.
- Vibrators. From your standard rabbit to more powerful vibrators intended for deep muscle massage can be pressed into BDSM play.One of the most popular types of vibrators for BDSM are wand-style body massagers. A cordless version is perfect to affix to someone's body with rope bondage or bondage tape. Vibrators can be used for pleasure or consensual forced orgasm play. Don’t forget, they aren’t just for vulvas and vaginas; penises like vibration too. It’s also a good idea to also have some non-vibrating insertables handy, like a butt plug or curved toy like the Njoy Pure Wand, which is suitable for G-spots or prostates.
